Ask Sadie - The Wedding Party
bridesmaid doesn't seem interested
Q. My chief bridesmaid doesn't seem interested in being in the wedding. How do I politely ask her if she still wants to be my bridesmaid without upsetting her?
A. A maid of honour is supposed to be a trusted friend who will be there for you, helping you make important decisions all along the way. Something tells me your maid of honour is unclear as to just what her responsibilities are.There are a couple of routes I would suggest in trying to get her more involved.
Try letting her know how stressed out you are and how much you'd appreciate her help with a few things. Be prepared to give her a list of SPECIFIC things you'd like her to look after, including deadlines. It could be that she's just not sure what to do and has been waiting for some direction from you.
Alternatively, you could turn the tables and ask her if it's too much pressure for her to be taking on her CB duties. Tell her that you are genuinely concerned that the reason she hasn't participated is because things in her own life are too hectic and you don't want to place any added strain on her. In either situation, let her know that if she's feeling pressured, she can attend as a bride's maid or a guest-of-honour, and you can pass the CB responsibilities on to someone else. This way, she'll have the opportunity to opt out with grace and you can go about finding someone who can help you on your big day.
who pays for wedding party attire?
Q. Who is responsible for the cost of the attendant's outfits?
A. Here's a quick link to who is traditionally responsible for what:
http://www.webwedding.co.uk/articles/etiquette/etiquettemoney.htm
There is some debate over who should pay for the attire of the attendants. If the bride and groom can afford to pay for the outfits they can, but it is not mandatory. Often members of the wedding party will expect to pay for their own outfits. If you decide to ask your attendants to pay for their own attire, let them know as soon as you ask them to participate and avoid any confusing or awkward situations later on.
bridesmaid's duties
Q. Can you give me a general outline of the cheif bridesmaid's responsibilities? I'd like to know what I'll be responsible for before accepting the invitation!
A. The chief bridesmaid will have a list of responsibilities and would probably appreciate all the help they can give. Take a look at this article for more information: http://ww.cfn/articles/chiefbridesmaid/chiefbridesmaidduties.htm
Typically the chief bridesmaid delegates jobs to the other maids to help ease the pressure. It's a great way to involve all the girls in the planning process. Often brides will ask all their maids to help choose the dress - a room full of her very own fashion consultants! The maids also look after planning the hen night and can also assist with any children (flower girls, ring bearers) in the wedding party. And, of course, offering general love and support throughout the engagement.
bridesmaid doesn't seem interested
Q. My chief bridesmaid doesn't seem interested in being in the wedding. How do I politely ask her if she still wants to be my bridesmaid without upsetting her?
A. A maid of honour is supposed to be a trusted friend who will be there for you, helping you make important decisions all along the way. Something tells me your maid of honour is unclear as to just what her responsibilities are.There are a couple of routes I would suggest in trying to get her more involved.
Try letting her know how stressed out you are and how much you'd appreciate her help with a few things. Be prepared to give her a list of SPECIFIC things you'd like her to look after, including deadlines. It could be that she's just not sure what to do and has been waiting for some direction from you.
Alternatively, you could turn the tables and ask her if it's too much pressure for her to be taking on her CB duties. Tell her that you are genuinely concerned that the reason she hasn't participated is because things in her own life are too hectic and you don't want to place any added strain on her. In either situation, let her know that if she's feeling pressured, she can attend as a bride's maid or a guest-of-honour, and you can pass the CB responsibilities on to someone else. This way, she'll have the opportunity to opt out with grace and you can go about finding someone who can help you on your big day.
who pays for wedding party attire?
Q. Who is responsible for the cost of the attendant's outfits?
A. Here's a quick link to who is traditionally responsible for what:
http://www.webwedding.co.uk/articles/etiquette/etiquettemoney.htm
There is some debate over who should pay for the attire of the attendants. If the bride and groom can afford to pay for the outfits they can, but it is not mandatory. Often members of the wedding party will expect to pay for their own outfits. If you decide to ask your attendants to pay for their own attire, let them know as soon as you ask them to participate and avoid any confusing or awkward situations later on.
bridesmaid's duties
Q. Can you give me a general outline of the cheif bridesmaid's responsibilities? I'd like to know what I'll be responsible for before accepting the invitation!
A. The chief bridesmaid will have a list of responsibilities and would probably appreciate all the help they can give. Take a look at this article for more information: http://ww.cfn/articles/chiefbridesmaid/chiefbridesmaidduties.htm
Typically the chief bridesmaid delegates jobs to the other maids to help ease the pressure. It's a great way to involve all the girls in the planning process. Often brides will ask all their maids to help choose the dress - a room full of her very own fashion consultants! The maids also look after planning the hen night and can also assist with any children (flower girls, ring bearers) in the wedding party. And, of course, offering general love and support throughout the engagement.
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